| Tuesday, December 30th, 2008 | | CWK Producer |
“Don’t obsess over every last milestone.”
– Karen Dewling, M.D., pediatrician
A few weeks before his first birthday, Nathan Eads began to walk. He didn’t talk until months later. “He was about 15 months when he started talking, which is a little later than the books say,” recalls Nathan’s mother Rebecca Eads. “He was such a quiet kid that he really didn’t talk or babble a lot.”
At 10-months-old Nathan’s baby sister Caroline babbles a lot, but she’s not walking just yet. “I guess you’re always curious about what comes next and how she’s gonna do things compared to what he’s done,” says Mrs. Eads.
Curiosity is one thing, but some parents obsess. “It’s very common that parents will compare their children to friends’ and neighbors’ children and worry that their child is not keeping up with what the other children are doing,” says pediatrician Dr. Karen Dewling. “As long as they’re within the normal range — and there’s such a huge range of normal — we don’t worry about it.”
Generally speaking, Dr. Dewling says babies should sit up by 7 months, stand by 9 and walk by 14 months. By age 1, kids may say and understand “mama” and “dada” and know several words by 18 months. “Anything out of those ranges should be discussed with a pediatrician. It may be normal, but it could be a sign of a problem,” says Dr. Dewling. But it’s not a race, she says. Every child will develop at his or her own pace.
“The most important thing is to enjoy the individual that you have. All of us are different and unique, and that’s what makes it fun.”
At 3-and-a-half, Nathan is now a chatty child with lots of personality. As for Caroline’s development? Her parents are taking it one step at a time. Rebecca Eads advises other parents: “I would say put the [parenting] book away. They’ll be walking, they’ll be talking, the pacifier will come out of the mouth — it’ll all happen.”
The following examples of milestones in the development of speech and language skills in children between the ages of two and six are provided as an informational resource for interested parents. It is extremely important for parents to remember that every child may not exhibit any number of these communication characteristics at the ages listed in these examples.
Furthermore, the fact that a child does not exhibit any or all of these characteristics at the ages given in these examples does not mean that your child has developmental problems. Individual children learn and grow at their own pace; they do not always fit neatly into scientific classification hierarchy. If you suspect that your child is having trouble with hearing, language acquisitions, or other speech related problems, do not hesitate to bring it to the attention of your child’s doctor. A hearing test can be one of the first referral/diagnostic measures to determine if there might be a hearing problem. Your child’s doctor may also refer you to a speech-language pathologist for an expert evaluation of your child’s language acquisition abilities.
Developmental Milestones in Speech: Ages Two and Three
How Can Parents Communicate With a Child in This Age Group?
The more interactive conversation and play a child is involved in, the more a child learns. Reading books, singing, playing word games, and simply talking to your child will increase her vocabulary while providing increased listening opportunities. Here are a few suggestions to help improve your child's communication skills:
Communication problems for 2- to 3-year-olds can include:
Developmental Milestones in Speech: Ages Four and Five
How Can Parents Communicate With a Child in This Age Group?
Communication problems among children in this age group include:
Developmental Milestone in Speech: Ages Five and Six
As children enter their grade-school years they become increasingly independent, spending much of their days outside the home in school and with peers. Talking with your child is essential to bond with her and share ideas, opinions, and information. Here are a few suggestions to aid communication with your child:
Problems in communication skills for children age 6 to 12 may include: