Healthy Living’s Not Just for Kids!

Guest Blog: Jamie Bachmann

First Lady Michelle Obama’s Let’s Move anti-obesity initiative is out to get kids and families to make healthy eating a priority. And it’s really a big issue: A recent study reported in the New England Journal of Medicine reports that obese children are more than twice as likely to die prematurely than their thinner peers.

But healthy living isn’t just for young kids. Fast forward through childhood to college life, where on my college campus, Spring Break is around the corner. I can tell you, along with intense studying for midterms, there has been plenty of intense dieting, as girls and guys alike strive to reach the Spring Break perfect body.

Girls restrict their food intake with the strategy: eat less, workout more. Facebook albums titled "Spring Break Diets = Empty Beds" suggest that if you sleep out at night, you’ll be less likely to succumb to nighttime munchies. So, we have girls starving themselves and increasing their promiscuity in preparation for spring break — not exactly healthy life choices.

But not everyone has approached the Spring Break diet negatively. A friend has used her Spring Break motivation to whip herself into shape using the P90X program. She’s drenched in sweat every morning and has seen some pretty amazing results. Yet, the very same girl who has dedicated herself to 90 days of pre-Spring-Break P90X declared, "Once I’m there, the diet’s over."

When we were younger, most of our food choices depended on our parents: meal preparation, activities and even transportation to sports practices and lessons. But in college, Mom’s not shoving a well-balanced breakfast down your throat or at the dinner table making sure you eat your vegetables, or even putting them on your plate.

Now with our college independence, it’s time for even older teens to step up to the healthy living plate. We can choose to eat junk food, consume mass quantities of alcohol, indulge in the late night munchies, and sit in the dorm room all day, racking up the "freshman fifteen" (which can continue well past freshman year). Or, we can get involved, become active, schedule time for working-out, and buy healthy snacks.

Really, healthy eating is not just about Spring Break and the crash course diets, obsessive-compulsive exercising, or starving yourself. However, Spring Break can serve as great motivation to jumpstart the healthy lifestyle, if done properly. Changes involve becoming educated consumers; we must know what we are putting into our body. Learning to make healthy choices will make you feel great and look great, not just for spring break, but for everyday. I’ve learned to push myself harder to meet my personal best when it comes to my workout goals. We could use each other as motivation, not competition. In the long run it doesn’t matter who looked better in their swimsuit; what matters is that we are healthy.

Plus, part of a healthy lifestyle just might be a healthy acceptance. While we would all like to have Fergie’s abs, Sarah Jessica Parker’s legs, and Beyonce’s entire body, realistically, no matter what we do, that’s probably not going to happen. It’s not about achieving a celebrity body or even about looking good in a bikini. Though Spring Break can be great motivation, healthy exercises and food choices need to become a life-long routine. Our health is in our hands, and as a college student, it’s time to start taking control.

Like many families today, games, practices and complicated sports schedules seem to dictate a good part of everyday. I’m not only the soccer mom, but the basketball, baseball and tennis mom, as well. Known to cheer loudly from the sidelines, perhaps I focus too often on winning. Just what does “do your best” and “play your hardest” mean to an 11-year-old who just wants to be out there with his friends, or a daughter who just liked best the days she was allowed to wear her uniform to school?

But today, aside from our middle school basketball finals, the greatest competition in the world is playing out right before our eyes: The 2010 Olympics. Whether or not your family’s schedule revolves around sports, you have to admit the Olympics offer a ring-side seat to watch thrilling sports competition – and to discuss and explore with your kids some truly character-defining moments.

More than the character words on our school marquee, the next few weeks provide an Olympic opportunity for families everywhere to bring character education home. Like the chapters featured in Inside Out, real stories make ideas about building character come to life.

What kind of courage does it take for those luge competitors to race down the track, knowing that one of their fellow competitors lost his life doing the same just days before? What kind of perseverance does it take to get back up on your skates after a fall and complete an ice dance? What kind of self-control does it take to go through the hours of training and conditioning to make the team? How do the losers demonstrate civility in the face of defeat? And imagine the peace in a world in which the biggest competition between countries takes place on a ski slope or ice rink?

For the next two weeks, I say to families: Turn on the TV and watch the Olympics! Enjoy the competition, while sharpening your parenting skills. There’s a character-building moment around just about every turn – for the Olympian athletes and viewers alike.

Technology in the hands of our children has never been a greater challenge. The internet, Facebook, iPods, pictures and texting on cell phones, these are the ways kids communicate today. They have become a central and, arguably, indispensible part of their lives. It allows them a private life that most of us know very little about.

The key to how they manage this privacy is our “connection” to them. How closely do we stay in touch with our kids and pay attention to what they’re doing and when and with whom? And how often do we talk to our children…and really listen to them? If they trust us and know that we will be there for them, they’re more likely to adhere to the ethics of our family, the standards that are never more important than when parents are not around. If we talk openly about what we believe in, what we stand for, before long those values will become their own.

The challenge for parents is that our kids have a whole new set of communication tools and many of these young people don’t fully understand that the old rules apply, even here, even in the brave new world of social networking and text messaging. We actually need to teach them, literally and plainly explain to them how ethics apply to these tools. “If you wouldn’t wear it in front of your grandmother, don’t wear it to school or to the dance. If you wouldn’t do it in the middle of a packed football stadium, don’t do it anywhere someone has a camera or a cell phone. If you don’t want that picture on the front page of the newspaper, don’t send it on your cell phone.”

Kids just don’t think through the consequences. They don’t think, “If I send this picture out to Bobby, he might send it to some friends, who might send it to a hundred others and the next thing you know, it’s on a dozen Facebook sites and all over the internet, forever.” This just doesn’t occur to them; they don’t think that way because they don’t have the life experience that we do. We have to help them.

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Cyberbulling is heartbreaking. We have interviewed so many children who talk about being bullied and harassed on the Internet or via text messages. They cry. Their parents cry. They tell stories about being tortured with cruel words and mean-spirited rumors so foul I cannot repeat them here. Many say it may begin with one bully but before long a whole gang of kids join in the cruelty. And often, despite the victim’s efforts to change passwords and screen names, the bullying continues for months or even years.

But it’s also heartbreaking for me to think of the bullies. How can a child, not that many years from the pure innocence of infancy, be that evil? When I hear (more…)

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Terrell is 17 years old and maybe he said it best.

“I did a lot of stupid things while I was drunk, like about a thousand things, really.”

I think there are two lessons imbedded in his comment. He is not talking about being stupid after having a drink, having one beer or maybe two. He means he got stupid when he drank way too much, when he got drunk. Many will argue that at the age of 18, 19, 20, kids shouldn’t drink at all but the real problem is that so many kids binge drink, they slug down a 12-pack, or six or eight or 10 drinks at one sitting. They haven’t learned to go slow, to pay attention to the signs that they’re approaching the edge of losing control. In fact, that’s their goal, to feel (more…)

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Psychologists at the University of Rochester studied recent college grads over two years, trying to figure what made them happy. What worked wasn’t extrinsic things, a car, a big house, fancy clothes…but then most of us knew that. The joy just doesn’t last long enough, you always need newer and more. (Once you drive off the lot, it’s a used car.) Instead, the researchers find that contentment comes from that list we got from (more…)

by Stacey DeWitt

Our children were out for Spring Break last week.   As we headed to the beach, I looked through our bookshelf to find something inspiring to read and landed on a book called, The Measure of a Man, a spiritual autobiography by Sidney Poitier.  I had purchased it a few months earlier since Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner (1967) has always been my favorite movie and To Sir with Love and A Patch of Blue rank in my top five. (more…)